Marriage in Sikhism religion is a kind of sacred bond in attaining a spiritual and worldly joy. The Sikh Gurus define marriage as emergence of one spirit in two bodies. The fourth Guru, Guru Ramdas originally composed the concept of ‘Lavan’, wedding song, to celebrate a kind of holy union between human soul and God (Parmatma).The bride and bridegroom then share their life, happiness and sorrow; from two individuals they become ‘Ek Jot Doe Murti’ meaning one spirit in two bodies.
In the Punjabi marriage, as soon as bride, groom and the two families assembled at one place, Milnee is performed. It is a kind of meeting of parents and close relatives of Groom and Bride. The marriage ceremony takes place in Gurduwara Sahib or at the bride’s home or any other suitable place where there is a presence of Guru Granth Sahib.
A priest or any Sikh (man or woman) may conduct the ceremony, and usually a respected and wise person is chosen. Appropriate hymns for the occasion are sung while, family, friends, and guests arrived. The marriage ceremony starts with the Groom, first seated before Guru Granth Sahib and brides take her place on the left.
The couple and their parents are asked to stand while the rest of congregation remains seated. A prayer is then conducted invoking god’s blessings for the proposed marriage and asking his grace for the union of the couple. This connotes the consent of the bride and the groom and their parents. The parties then resume their seats and a short hymn is sung.
Upon translation, the hymn would read as follows:
Call upon God for task thou wouldst have accomplished, He will bring the tasks to rights, so witnessed the Guru.
In the company of the holy thou shalt rejoice and taste only nectar, Thou art the demolisher of fear; thou art compassionate, 0’ Lord,
Nanak singeth the praises of the incomputable Lord.
The couple is then asked to honor their vows by bowing together before Guru Granth Sahib Ji. Then the bride’s father places one end of saffroncolored scarf in the groom’s hand, passing it over the shoulder and placing the other end in the bride’s hand. Thus joined, the two will take the vows. This is followed by a short hymn.